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Divorce is already a traumatic experience for most individuals and their families. Dealing with a toxic spouse who is vengeful or angry for whatever reason, or lack thereof, can make the touchy divorce process even more difficult by dragging out issues that normally could be resolved with better cooperation and compromise, and with mutual agreements outside of the courtroom. With reasonableness and serious-mindedness, for example, voluntary mediation between the parties can be extremely helpful.
For both parties in a difficult divorce, I recommend the following, inter alia:
(1) DOCUMENTATION, DOCUMENTATION, DOCUMENTATION. There is no substitute for documentation of a party's position in a difficult divorce. Frequently, one or both parties may mis-state or even fabricate their positions to get what they want out of the divorce. documentation rules.
(2) KEEP THE UNFORTUNATE PAST IN THE PAST. And try very hard to focus on the present and future situations. The parties cannot undue the past, but they can at least work to salvage what remains of their individual futures ( as well as the futures of their innocent children, if any).
(3) SEEK THERAPY If YOU FEEL TRAUMATIZED. As stated previously, divorce is generally traumatic for most people. Seek professional help to cope.
(4) Of course, GET AN ATTORNEY TO REPRESENT YOU. This goes without saying. And, be very honest with your attorney.
(5) However, your goal in getting your attorney to represent you in your divorce is not necessarily to "win" the divorce [ whatever that is], but to maximize your opportunities for a fair and just result for you in the divorce. It is my observation that there are rarely any " winners" in divorce; mainly victims.
(6) EMOTION KILLS; THOUGHT HEALS. Do not make important decisions in a divorce without careful thought and consultation with your attorney.
(7) Remember: You are the ones getting the divorce from each other; NOT your children.
(8) Divorces attract "rubberneckers" ( aka, "gawkers", "busy bodies", family and friends, etc.). And, "everybody" has advice and opinions about YOUR DIVORCE; even those people who have never been married or even divorced. Do not believe everything these other people say about your divorce.
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