TIPS ON HOWARD COUNTY MARYLAND DIVORCE : CHARLES JEROME WARE, LLC

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In over 30 years of  successful legal representation of parties in divorce actions in Howard County and elsewhere in Maryland, I have never handled a case that was not traumatic for them --- regardless of whether they articulated their distress or not.  The fact is that when a marriage comes to an end, spouses and their children frequently face tremendous stress and emotional conflict.  Many things suddenly become new in their lives, including: new living arrangements, new parenting schedules and demands, decisions about marital property and money, etc. Understandably, all of the above can make it difficult for even the calmest person make sound decisions and understand fully the necessary legal process involved in getting the divorce.


Engaging rational and experienced attorneys on both sides in the divorce can obviously be extremely helpful in surviving this difficult and traumatic process. Being better informed in advance about the process can also help:


(1) There are no "winners" in a divorce, only victims and survivors. Therefore, do not enter into a divorce expecting to "win". Enter expecting to "survive" this traumatic experience, and have a better life afterwards. Good lawyering helps in this effort.


(2) Do not make important decisions without consulting an attorney, and thinking the issue through thoroughly. As I advise all of my clients: "measure twice, cut once" when making these decisions.


(3) Always remember: YOU are getting the divorce, NOT your children. Think about that a moment.


(4)  Every divorce is unique; no two divorces are the same. Therefore, do not believe everything other people tell you about their divorce or what they heard about someone else's divorce.


(5) Divorce is principally about the future, not the past. When you enter into a divorce, focus primarily on your (and your children's ) future; despite how awful the past may have been.