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In general, civility is a goal in the judicial systems of Howard County and Montgomery County, Maryland. Therefore, a party's behavior during the very stressful and traumatic event of divorce is
observed carefully. It is my observation in over 30 years of representing good people in divorce and family law matters that, regardless of the attitude the party presents superficially, everyone is adversely affected emotionally, psychologically, and financially by their divorce. I have always tried very hard to be cognizant of and sympathetic with this fact. Divorce is tough on a person, and especially on children of the parties. Divorce and family law involves the raw emotions of human beings, not mechanical widgets. Nobody "wins" in a divorce, but it is still possible to have a
"successful " divorce. A summary guide ( "WARE's GUIDE") I recommend is as follows:
1. Do not enter into a divorce with an attitude to "win". The better attitude for a party, I have observed, is to enter the divorce process with an attitude of "successful survival" of this stressful process. This attitude actually increases your chances of "winning"( whatever that standard means to you.).
2. Just as you preferably did before you married your spouse, measure at least twice (consider carefully your decision) before you decide to pursue a divorce from your spouse. Be absolutely sure the divorce is what you want to do.
3. Get good, sound and reasonable divorce legal advice early in the process. But the final decision to act must be your decision, not that of anyone else.
4. If you it may help, seek competent therapy to discuss your situation.; particularly when their are children involved.
5. Speaking of children, remember it is not the children that are getting the divorce from the other parent; it is the parents who are getting the divorce from each other. The children are, quite frankly, victims of the divorce.
6. EDUCATE yourself on the divorce process. Your divorce can be helpful with this.
7. Set reasonable goals and make reasonable plans for the future.
8. Collect copies of all of your financial records and documents immediately.
9. Keep your children uupermost in mind duiring your divorce
10. Create and maintain the "big picture" of your divorce and your future.
Call us with any questions or concerns, or for an initial courtesy consultation, at (410) 720- 6129 or (410) 730-5016.
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